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Angus T. Jones is a still-learning 19-year-old

December 10, 2012

Angus T. Jones is a still-learning 19-year-old

Angus T. Jones, the fraction in the CBS sitcom “Two and a Half Men,” made news recently when he called the series “filth,” bemoaned his own participation in it, and advised people not to watch it. The call came in the course of what he at least would call a religious testimony, delivered on video and posted on YouTube.

On ABC’s “Nightline,” Dr. Damon Raskin, a former child actor himself, described Jones’ behavior as “very self-destructive”; on his blog, TV comedy writer Ken Levine called him “an incredibly ungrateful confused young man who has just committed career suicide and left himself open for major lawsuits.”

Some of the reaction to Jones’ announcement has really been a reaction to self-styled minister Christopher Hudson, who made the video and appears in it. Hudson’s Forerunner Chronicles mixes Seventh-Day Adventist notions of the apocalypse with a wider selection of popular paranoid conspiracy theories; Jones, who attends an Adventist church in Los Angeles, thanks his new friend for “the information” he provides, without specifically endorsing his views.
 
It may well be that he is being fooled — “exploited,” worries mother Carey Jones — or being foolish. But he isn’t only being foolish, it seems to me.

Rather, he appears to be making a stab at becoming a better person and some version of a responsible adult. The story of worldly dissatisfaction and sudden spiritual revelation he relates on the video is not out of the ordinary. And his malaise, if not necessarily his response to it, seems typical enough for a 19-year-old — an age susceptible to outsized attacks of seriousness, elation, frustration, boredom and despair. It’s not for nothing that Shakespeare made Hamlet a college student.

Jones is not the first 19-year-old, after all, to conclude that television is bad for you. Nor is he the first rich kid — his 2010 contract with “Two and a Half Men” guaranteed him $7.9 million over the next two seasons — not to be made happy by his riches. Nor is he the first actor to attack a vehicle, or the first performer to feel himself swayed toward a holier path: I give you the Rev. Al Green, the artist formerly known as Cat Stevens and actress Dolores Hart, who left Hollywood to become a nun. To the extent we look at such transitions as comical or sad, misguided or self-defeating or limiting, we only confirm the narrowness of our own ideas of what can constitute a Good Life.

“Filth” is a loaded word, admittedly. It is not like “smut” or “porn,” which have become almost cute. It suggests contamination. But is it even controversial? As to the sitcom’s actual content, let me simply refer back to my review of the first episode of Season 9, the dawn of the Ashton Kutcher era, which “hunted for laughs in herpes, chlamydia and vaginal warts” and gave Conchata Ferrell a line about “hosing the vomit off the occasional drug-addled hooker.”

The number of viewers that will heed his call to rejection will be, I would guess, statistically close to zero. The ratings for the first episode after the news broke, an episode in which Jones’ character, Jake, announces he’s contracted an STD (title: “I Scream When I Pee”) were as good as any this season, and I would guess that everyone is sleeping just fine over at Chuck Lorre Productions. Given their experience with Uncle Charlie Sheen, they may regard this as an opportunity, assuming the show is picked up for another season.

Times change, of course: One generation’s cutting edge is a dull blade to the next. Pornography is now just another thing that lives on your Internet. But if we have long understood obscenity to be something relative, subject to the venue — sexual matters that can seem lazy or cynical on CBS’ “2 Broke Girls” might feel perfectly fitting on HBO’s all-but-explicit “Girls” — the fact is that broadcast television runs chockablock with sex nowadays. And there remain plenty of viewers for whom that makes it a minefield.

Jones also had the proximate example of former costar Sheen, a walking cautionary tale in the way that youthful celebrity can arrest development, if not necessarily success. Seeming to miss the point, the Rock Star from Mars has invited Jones on to his own, raunchier new series. And though Sheen pictured Jones as undergoing a “Hale-Bopp-like meltdown,” nothing of that sort seems to be underway. Jones, for his part, quickly issued an apology to “all of the wonderful people” he’d worked with and for on the show and acknowledging their “support, guidance and love.” To the extent that he has mentioned anyone by name, it is not, as Sheen did, to pick a fight.

It seems not unlikely that Jones may be nearing the end of his major-league acting career. He does not seem to have been particularly passionate about it, even before these recent developments, and history is in any case littered with former sitcom stars who never caught another break.

Still, I wish you well, Angus T. Jones. I would, however, recommend you take a sliver of your enormous salary and invest it in a first-class liberal arts education, to put that “information” you’ve been scraping off the Internet into better perspective. The end may be further off than you imagine, there is much to learn, and you are young yet.

 

Dr. Damon Raskin

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Jeremy Stanton on Fox 11 News

November 27, 2012

Jeremy Stanton on Fox 11 News

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A New Trend In Beauty with Dr. Constantino Mendieta

December 6, 2012

A New Trend In Beauty with Dr. Constantino Mendieta

Men and women alike are known to dibble and dabble in plastic sugery. Whether it is a nose job, liposuction, tummy tuck, Botox, and any other surgery they can get to achieve the ‘ultimate look.’ Well, the trend that is now is butt augmentations. Everyone looks at stars like Beyonce, J-Lo, and Kim Kardashian and want to have what they see as the perfect booty. Look no further; Dr. Constantino Mendieta is the ‘Master of Booties.’ Located in Miami Florida, Dr. Mendieta makes sure all of his clients have a well sculpted bottom they are happy and proud of. Leaving clients more confident that ever.

Why the ‘booty’? What was so intriguing about the butt that made you want to focus on that specific aspect of the body?

Constantino Mendieta:

Believe me it was not an easy road.  You see I am married man you have no idea how many times I got knocked off of a bench from a right elbow to the rib cage while starring at buttocks. So how do you tell your wife you want to stare at buttocks all day long?

Well after two weeks of therapy I was able to approach the subject again. Just kidding she was actually very helpful she helped me see things from a woman’s perspective and gave me a different outlook.

So the research began, in the beginning I was obsessed to say the least thinking about it almost day and night. I was very frustrated since I did not know what I was really looking at, they all looked alike, two buns with a central part some were pretty, others- well!. I started by gathering hundreds of buttock pictures and dividing them into “attractive”, “not so attractive” and “where did this come from”. I found myself thinking of this all the time and made several mistakes along the way, on one occasion I woke my wife up at 1 in the morning and I said; honey- stand up- she thought a cockroach or a rat had entered into the bed so she jumped quickly with her hair all up in the air and barely conscious she said what? What happened? I then- said-do me a favor turn around for a minute, I have been thinking of something that I think is important, I need to measure your buttock. Well the buttock project had to go on hold for while at least until I straightened out with the therapist the appropriate times to discuss the butt.

With therapy I could now return to the buttock project but my determination was strong, every walk in the park was an opportunity to study

Actually my wife turned out to be a tremendous help and gave my first start at figuring out what I was looking at. With my wife’s help I noticed that the attractive buttock was not related to size but rather shape and proportions. She helped me find relationships in the surrounding parts of the buttock (she noticed there were different buttock heights and widths) and with this little push it really got me thinking in the right direction.

As a side note it is interesting to see how men and women see things very differently. I showed her two beautiful buttocks and asked what she saw. I realized that women tend to have sharper eye for aesthetics and beauty while men are much more sexual (comments like I’ll tell you what I see? Or howling noises, on one occasion ‘wait a minute that’s my sister!’.

It took me about 8 years to really understand how to reshape and change the buttock region. I now teach all over the world and have written and authored a book on the subject. There are only two in the world.

How long have you been sculpting booties?

CM: This is a passion that started 12 years ago. When I developed the interest there was absolutely nothing in our literature (in the history of plastic surgery) to help guide surgeons in the aesthetic of the buttocks, how to contour, what makes a pretty buttock, how do you transform the buttock to be perkier, prettier more youthful appearance. There were some articles on how to make the buttock bigger but nothing in the aesthetics of beauty of the buttock. This therefore became my mission and it took me seven years to develop the process and then teach others around the world.

What prompted you to write The Art of Gluteal Sculpting?

CM: The seven years it took me to develop a new booty vision was cemented in my book. There was a need for this in our specialty. There are only two books in the world on this subject and I am fortunate to have been able to write one of them.

The fat is an excellent way to augment the buttock it is completely natural therefore no chances of rejection since it is your own body. However we need the transplanted fat to survive it is like transplant trees from the back yard to the front yard, it needs the right nutrition, water and the best soil but not all the tree will survive. When it comes to fat not all the transferred fat will survive and it will take six months for the final results to be seen.

How is the butt augmentation done? How is the fat transferred in the bottom?

CM: The fat is obtained from unwanted areas of the body, areas that you cannot get rid of no matter how much your work out or diet. This liquid gold material (fat), is then prepared by separating the fluid from the fat and then transferring the pure fat cells to the buttock. The trick is not just making the buttock bigger but also rather reshaping it, making it perkier and more youthful.  You don’t necessarily need to make it bigger and you can just reshape, but if you desire a larger buttock this also can be done. The fat in injected into the muscle into the fat and in all layers of the buttock.

What is the recovery time? Are you able to sit on your bottom right after the procedure?

CM: It is 10 days to get back to work, one month to feel normal (like you feel before surgery), two months to get back to the gym and six months to see the final results.

Women are going great lengths to achieve the perfect bottom; they are even going so far as to getting butt injections; what are the dangers of these injections?

CM: You have three ways to augment the buttock; implants, fat grafting and these unapproved and deadly liquid injections (they consist of silicone, fix a flat, PMMT).  The biggest  “con” is selecting an unqualified doctor. The horrors of these back alley quacks who criminally inject industrial chemicals, cement and who knows what cause irreparable damage and death to desperate people. The pros are numerous, Life changing for many, as your entire shape is re-jigged, literally. I give women with blocky midsections a waist, and a booty that they have always wanted with their own fat tissue. The confidence boost is tremendous, and I cannot tell you how ecstatic people are to live a life in a body they are proud of.  Also, removing fat from the abdomen is a healthy move for many people too.

From, the before and after photos (which are amazing by the way!), your clients are pretty much getting liposuction in addition to their augmentation. You can see the way the back is sculpted from the end product…. Have you ever had any client that was not satisfied with your work?

CM: Sure, plastic surgery is not an exact science and complications occur or just results that were not what they desired. When you deal with the human psyche there are many variables, and not every patient will be happy. There is nothing in life where all people are happy every single time no matter what industry you are in. It is just a fact of life. But to minimize these issues you need to feel comfortable with your surgeon. Go to surgeons who love performing the procedure and do it on a regular basis. It is not about self-promotion but rather about educating the public on safety issues, understanding the options that exist and avoiding pitfalls, educating patients on what to look for in a surgeon and how to select a surgeon.

Frankly there are many very good board certified plastic surgeons. It is imperative that you do your homework and look at three things:

  1. Board certification
  2. Before and after photos to make sure you are on the same aesthetic sense make sure you like his way of looking at the aesthetics. You are selecting and artist and just like art there are many different taste. Select the one for you.
  3. Feel comfortable with your surgeon; therefore see several doctors before you decide.

Is the augmentation reversible?

CM: Well you can always liposuction the area that was augmented, making the buttock smaller but why would you want to do that? This would make me cry.

Can you tell us some of your celebrity clients and/or famous faces that our readers may know?

CM: Unfortunately while we have many high profile people I cannot disclose names due to HIPPA and privacy issues. But they are shaking their ‘money-makers.’

Tell me about your upcoming reality show The Best Seat in The House? How did the idea of a reality show come about, and how did you get involved?

I was approached by a production company called 44 Blue, and they had the idea since they felt the buttock is the new hot topic and patients are flying from all over the world. People are mortgaging houses, taking out loans, getting sugar daddies, and scarffing up savings to get a new booty. This is the latest craze in plastic surgery. So they felt this was a world worth exploring the lengths that people got to, to improve the back side. I am super excited about this look into the plastic surgery world from a different perspective

When can we expect the show to air?

CM: Not sure we are still pitching to the various networks

There was a photo of a male patient you worked on; do you get a lot of male patients who want the butt augmentation just as much as females? Is your fee still $14,000, and, does the same fee apply to male clients or is it a bit more because they are males?

CM: Men are a huge untapped market currently they are about 10% of the practice but they should be higher, one of the first things men lose is their buttocks and they have to overcompensate with large wallets in the buttock. But really when it comes to men a flat buttock is a current epidemic that we need to cure.

 

Tell me about your Booty Camp? What does it consist of? Squats, running, and special foods?

CM: Booty camp is when patients don’t have enough fat so I need them to gain weight. I send them on eating workouts to McDonalds, pasta places, dessert places, and high calorie shakes. It is booty training.

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Dr. Constantino Mendieta

The Best in Holiday 2012 Gift Finds: Clarisonic Mia 2 a worthy upgrade

December 4, 2012

The Best in Holiday 2012 Gift Finds: Clarisonic Mia 2 a worthy upgrade

 

The Best in Holiday 2012 Gift Finds is an ongoing series until December that celebrates the practical to the extravagant, the unusual to the commonly needed items of everyday life.

 

From food, wine and spirits to beauty, clothing and even home goods and appliances, we have been trying and testing and ultimately weeding out the good stuff you should consider for giving this holiday season. Take us shopping with you.

 

We have previously reviewed the brilliant skin cleanser Clarisonic, designed by the same genius who gave us Sonicare toothbrushes, the perfect toothbrush that still tops that category as best in show.

Clarisonic Mia 2 is a better packaging of the same powerful cleansing motor that whirs away dead skin and refines the complexion to an even and perfectly prepped surface, where advanced skin serums can be best absorbed.

 

This is a universal product for both men and women, and now is much more travel friendly.

My skin looks easily 20 years younger than my chronological age, thanks in great part to a devotion to not sunning, DNA luck and my obsessive use of good skincare. The Clarisonic cleansing system has elevated this prevention game and keeps my face even in texture, and me feeling extremely confident in less foundation than I have ever worn in my life.

The Mia 2 replaces the original Clarisonic Plus as a lighter weight, more compact upgrade that occupies room in a travel case and boasts a superior charging interface (magnetic) that requires less fuss in keeping clean. The original sat upright in a matching color plastic stand that tended to collect grime quickly at the base.

The cleanser of choice for me is featured in a new skincare line – La Contessa Skincare’s Foaming Glycolic Cleanser – an effective and gentle foam worth your while as it cuts through everything. For men and women, as it is packaged in a time saving pump and the glycolic helps to refine the look of your epidermis and brighten skin.

The primary benefits of this device are clarity and textural improvement of your face and neck, as dead akin is evenly obliterated, and your new skin cells are able to absorb the benefits of skin saving serums and sun protective moisture that keep the epidermis looking young and healthy.

Skin is our largest organ, and it reflects our internal physiological and mental health too. Skin needs constant maintenance (if you are new to this), and those who tend to it, like exercising to keep trim and vital, reap the benefits. Ignore it or abuse with sun, lifestyle missteps and apathy and you will look older than you should

Bottom line: A thoughtful, useful gift for anyone in the family.

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La Contessa

Butt implant fail wins viral video award

December 3, 2012

Butt implant fail wins viral video award

“People are desperate to enhance their buttocks, but take dangerous chances not seeking out a qualified board certified surgeon,” Mendieta said.

The winner for viral video award of the week goes to an unfortunate woman who reveals a buttocks implant operation that has gone terribly wrong.

The woman is shown turning a silicone buttock implant around and around under her skin because the hard silicone implant never was anchored properly to the muscle. This created a pocket where the hard implant was suspended with no supportive scar tissue to keep it firmly in place.

“This is an example of gluteal surgery gone terribly wrong,” says Miami-based plastic surgeon Dr. Constantino Mendieta, who literally wrote the book (The Art of Gluteal Sculpting) on this new trend in plastic surgery, where bottoms are being shaped with implants and more popular autologous fat transfer. This is also known as “fat grafting,” where fat is harvested from unwanted areas and put back in where it is needed.

Dr. Mendieta says, “Safer than implants, fat is the golden material for enhancing and rejuvenating everything from the back of the hands and the face for volume loss to calves and even biceps to make them appear larger.”

The increase in the demand for such procedures means surgery-gone-horribly-wrong cases are filling the news, especially the transsexual phony doctor in Miami who injected cement and Fix-A-Flat into women’s skin directly.

“People are desperate to enhance their buttocks, but take dangerous chances not seeking out a qualified board certified surgeon,” Mendieta said.

The famous case of Oneal Ron Morris of Miami showed how death can result from back alley butchers who use foreign materials to create a bigger behind. Morris was charged with manslaughter in the death of Shatarka Nuby, 31.

The sad fact is that Morris was already facing charges of practicing medicine without a license and causing serious bodily injury for allegedly injecting at least two women with a mixture of Fix-a-Flat tire sealant, mineral oil and cement in a backroom attempt at buttock enhancement. Nuby died after receiving injections to enlarge her breasts, allegedly from Oneal.

The American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery monitors these horrific cases, and Dr. Mendieta urges everyone wanting to improve their appearance to do background checks on physicians offering this, and contact their patients to get first hand referrals too.

Board certified plastic surgeons are members of the American Society for Plastic Surgeons as well as the American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery..

Dr. Constantino Mendieta, MD, FACS, has long viewed cosmetic surgery as a reflection of the human body’s own evolution, and how to improve it. A Latino American with a practice based in the “Gateway to the Americas,” Dr. Mendieta’s speciality in buttock shaping and body contouring procedures as well as butt augmentations with fat grafting are considered top in the field.

 

Good Surgery.

“There is no procedure more satisfying to me than combined buttock and body reshaping, it is truly a life changing procedure,” says Dr. Mendieta.

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How Low can she go? An expert’s dire warning if Lindsay doesn’t get help ASAP

Novemeber 30, 2012

How Low can she go? An expert’s dire warning if Lindsay doesn’t get help ASAP

With each of her disturbing antics seemingly hitting a new low, you would think logically that Lindsay Lohan couldn’t sink much further.

But in these all-too-common occurrences and brushes with the law, the trouble-magnet’s behavior just gets worse….and worse.

At this point in time, to say she is spiraling out of control, is an understatement- she is in need of serious professional help.

As new details emerged of her 4am arrest when she punched Tiffany Eve Mitchell in the face at club Avenue in New York (the fight was said to be over Max from British boy band “The Wanted” who rejected her sloppy drunk advances; she was allegedly high, according to RadarOnline; she spat on the girl; she screamed at the cops),  is this free fall into the depths of depravity a serious cry for attention or the sign that psychologically, she has bigger issues that just drug and alcohol abuse?

For normal people, several stints behind bars and countless trips to rehab would have signaled their rock bottom, but for Lohan the pit seems wide, open and gaping.

Richard Taite, founder and CEO of Cliffside Malibu Treatment Center and best-selling author of Ending Addiction for Good, says that Lohan isn’t just a problem to herself, but now possess a risk to others around her.

“She is definitely spiraling out of control,” he tells Celebzter. “She is continually getting into trouble and any reasonable person can tell she needs help.  Given her numerous arrests and convictions, any sober person would be motivated to stop their destructive behavior but addicts don’t think that way.”

“She is walking a slippery slope and if she doesn’t get help soon she will, in all probability, seriously hurt herself or someone else,” he adds.

Having two warring parents is not helping her cause either. Today her dad, Michael, pointed the finger of blame clearly at Dina (she has so far remained mum on her daughter’s latest brush with the law) and Taite thinks that Lohan is sliding into a drug and drink oblivion to block out the dysfunction of her family unit.

 

 

“This can typically happen to people when they don’t get their emotional needs met as children.  Sometimes, the anger they feel consciously or unconsciously causes them to act out aggressively. To dull the emotional pain they may turn to drugs and alcohol.  Lindsay has had so many episodes of this nature that she really needs to get professional, long-term treatment where she will learn to change her lifestyle and habits.”

 

 

The question now is, will this girl, who is only 26, and has been given more chances than most people have to reform and clean up her act, get help before it is too late?

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Creating Change

Creating Change

The incidence of substance abuse is on the rise for men and women over the age of 50. Dr. Raskin from Cliffside Malibu shares advice and information about what to do if an elderly loved one is suffering from an addiction. He discusses the complications that are specific to this population, as well as little known facts about the hidden problem of substance abuse among the elderly.

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Dr. Damon Raskin, M.D has been doing what he loves for the past 16 years.  As a board certified internist, he has dedicated his career to helping his patients through both minor and major medical interventions.  For 10 years Dr. Raskin has specialized in working in addiction detoxification.  Dr. Raskin first became involved with addiction medicine when he was hired as a consultant at  a rehab center in Southern California before moving on to Cliffside Malibu as one of their medical specialists.  At Cliffside Malibu he works closely with patients who are going through detoxification.  Dr. Raskin believes that the detox process can be very dangerous and he stresses it is important that the addict doesn’t stop using suddenly as it can be as harmful as their actual addiction. Dr. Raskin recognizes that it is beneficial for the addicted patient to slowly and calmly re-train their bodies to function without drugs  for optimal treatment.

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Dr. Damon Raskin

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Where The Rich And Famous Go For Addiction Treatment

Novemeber 27, 2012

Where The Rich And Famous Go For Addiction Treatment

Richard Taite is a bit of an incongruity. For the CEO of one of the world’s most successful addiction treatment facilities (financially and in treatment success rate), he’s refreshingly down-home and modest, in an industry that’s often not so. Part of his humility might come from the fact that he was an addict himself for 20 years before getting clean, becoming professionally successful, and founding Cliffside Malibu. So he understands his patients’ plights in the most intimate way.

“If you had told me twenty years ago that I would one day get sober,” Taite says, “marry an amazing woman who consistently inspires me to be a better man, have a child who is the love of my life, and become the founder of one of the leading addiction treatment centers in the world, I would have laughed in your face. Then I would have taken another hit of crack.”

In the throes of his addiction, Taite was smoking crack every day, going for a week or more without sleep, and eating a Big Mac once a week just to stay alive. He was homeless at one point, too. He ultimately managed to pull himself out of addiction in a sober living facility and a lot – a lot – of therapy. Today he says that the core issues with addiction for most people come from long held and erroneous beliefs about oneself that begin in childhood. Abusing alcohol or drugs, he explains, is often an addict’s attempt to cope with these beliefs that develop early but, unfortunately and destructively, stick around and shape us as adults. His treatment facility’s methods center around helping the patient get to the bottom of their “issues,” which has to happen first for a person to surface from their addiction.

“I’m the worst CEO on the face of the Earth, FOR SURE,” Taite jokes. Some would say he hasn’t always made the best financial decisions with the organization, spending out-of-pocket money to help clients in unconventional ways. “If,” says Taite, “you run a business like a love call, you are a ‘bad businessman.’ But you get to help a lot of people, and in the end that’s exactly why we are so successful.”

The fact that his facility looks much like a luxury resort is somewhat of an accident. He bought the house that would later become Cliffside Malibu to live in himself, and thought he would spend the rest of his life there. That did not happen, however, as the house quickly evolved into his treatment facility – the Ralph Lauren furnishings and ultra-modern flat-screen TVs that he handpicked for his own use now remain for the comfort of his patients.

“It’s funny,” says Taite. “The therapists I interviewed and who toured the site, were disgusted by having a flat-screen in every room. I said to them, ‘You want me to teach these people how to fall asleep in 30 days?’ If you’re a therapist with little experience, you don’t know addicts. An addict doesn’t know how to fall asleep: he passes out.  If I can help him pass out watching MSNBC on a big-screen TV, instead of using his drug of choice, then we’re doing pretty good.”

To be sure, treatment comes with a hefty price tag. Depending on the length of the stay, which can range from 30 to 120 days, the cost of sobriety can cost many tens of thousands of dollars. Taite has brought in the most highly skilled staff he could find to support his integrative treatment approach, he says, and has a guarantee on clients’ treatment success. “My staff are top-notch people, and they are not desensitized to the process, which is what you often find in addiction treatment. They’re here because they love what they do, and never lost that.” Taite and his team use a theory of behavior change, originally developed by Dr. James Prochaska, in their treatment, which he credits for the facility’s high success rate.

Getting into the head of an addict who’s a bigwig is a particular challenge since there is so much at stake, and so much power and ego involved. As with other individuals, helping the high-powered recover is not a switch that happens over night, it’s more like a very gradual dial, says Taite, which takes time to turn. “The exec, the CEO – he’s so successful at making money, you can’t tell him anything, you can’t talk to this guy. With the ‘dial,’ though, you can win his heart over, even if you can’t win over his head right away. He thought the first day of treatment is going to be worst day of his life, that all the fun is over. When you win his heart, you have this guy; and it’s not what he expected.”

Taite adds that at the end of the day, the goal is to create a shift in his clients’ heads so that existence “is no longer driven by the trauma, the anxiety of your past. Everything in your childhood, every story you developed when you were 8 is now running your 45-year-old life and creating wreckage. A lot of these high-functioning guys don’t have the tools; that’s why they use. Once you replace the trauma and the stories with the truth, you realize what’s real and what’s not. We addicts have a built-in forgetter, however, so you have to do constant maintenance and constant reminding.”

There is, of course, an extra degree of privacy at Cliffside Malibu because many of his patients are highly visible in their normal lives. “The fear is, ‘it can’t leak it out that CEO is a drunk and that we might lose billions in stock,'” says Taite. “These guys get a little bit of perspective while they’re here. They stop creating wreckage; they stop self-sabotaging, and start to actually begin to take in and be present for their children, their wives. And, of course, they become volumes more productive at work.”

In answer to the question of whether he has to turn people who can’t afford treatment away, Taite says, “That’s a bad deal. That’s a really bad deal. That’s why I wrote the book [Ending Addiction for Good] – because 99% of people can’t afford good treatment. This was the global way I could address that problem. We do turn people away; that’s why my staff won’t let me answer the phone, because I have a very hard time doing that. Sometimes we have to make recommendations about other places for treatment. What do you do when someone has no money?

“What I’m doing is putting something out there that has worked for us and, hopefully, based upon our reputation in the community, the directors, clinical directors or program directors of the 1150 or so nonprofit treatment centers in California and in places just like that around the country will say ‘wow, this is what they do at Cliffside Malibu, I want to try this.'” So Taite’s book was his way of disseminating the models he uses to other treatment facilities around the country, and perhaps the world. “It doesn’t cost anything to become better educated in your craft and to better serve the people who you’re charged with helping.”

As to how Taite is able continue his “love call” with the same enthusiasm with which he began, he says this: “The reason I do this every day, and continue to love it every day, is because I’ve got a three year old daughter and wife who is 42 about to have our second baby. We got it together just in time so we didn’t miss out on that. We’ve got intense love and gratitude for something that saved our lives. I understand what successful treatment takes, because I lived it and have helped so many others achieve it. And if you know how to do something – like treat a person for addiction – and you don’t do it… well, then you’re a *&^$%^#$@ idiot.”

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